Stress is a certainty like death and taxes. It happens, and will present itself in your life, whether you want it to or not. It’s bossy, pushy, and persistent. It comes in two forms: good or bad. Either way, it grabs and holds your attention in a variety of ways.
Let’s talk about the bad stuff first. Some of us are saddled in jobs that crush our spirits a little bit every day. An impossible workload, hours that take you away from your loved ones or that boss whose sole purpose in life is to make yours a living hell. Perhaps you are in a relationship that has long since lost it’s spark and has now become a source of contention for you. In life, there are things you can control and things you can’t. In most cases, you have more control than you know. If you’ve found yourself in a career position that has become so stressful that you no longer want to show up, it’s time to blow the dust off your resume and search for a better job. This may seem obvious to many of you, but some people feel they are stuck. If this is the case, there are efforts you can make to changes your situation. If you need more education or training, get it! That may be a sacrifice in some cases but in the end, you will discover that a short-term sacrifice will be worth the long-term result. If it is impossible for you to spare the time or if finances are an issues, network and find yourself a better position. Utilize all your resources and put yourself in a better position. If the cause of your unusually high level of “bad” stress is a relationship, move on. Plain and simple, remove yourself from the situation. There doesn’t have to be a big production to end the relationship. Whether its a mentally/emotionally abusive relationship with a mate or a contentious relationship with a girlfriend, get yourself out! If it is a physically abusive relationship, by all means, GET OUT!
There are also “good” stressors. Your little one will be taking the stage in his or her first play. You got that big promotion you’ve been fought for. He pops the question! These types of things cause stress but it’s the type of stress that inspires productivity and results in a sense of accomplishment. Some level of stress is vital to our survival because it is that same stress that pushes us to go forward and thrive. You’re more motivated to reach goals you’ve set for yourself. The good stuff can help you complete daily tasks. We all need a continuous amount of this level of stress in small doses.
Remember that life is to be lived on purpose. Remember that you are in control of that life. Enjoy what you have.